WEDDING ETIQUETTES & TIPS

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Here at Nineteen Design Studio, we look forward to helping you create a gorgeous wedding invitation suite. Your wedding invitation wording should express to the invitees the general tone of the wedding whether it is formal, intimate, whimsical, spectacular, or low-key. One of the most important points of wedding invitation etiquette, however, is that your invitations communicate the details about the day's proceedings.

Next, wedding etiquette typically state that you should be clear in both language and meaning about times, locations, attire, activities, directions or anything else that may or may not be involved in your special day.

We’re here to answer whatever wedding etiquette and invitation wording questions that you have, so reach out and talk to us if you have questions about how to word your custom invites.

1 / When should I order and mail my wedding stationery?

When do I start a guest list? When do I order wedding invitations? How long after the wedding do I have to send thank you cards? These are great questions and our wedding invitation timeline answers them all. Follow the timeline to find out when to send wedding invitations as well as other wedding stationery.

10 to 12 months before the wedding date:
Begin your Save The Date search if you are having a destination wedding or if you are receiving several out of town guests.

6 to 8 months before the wedding date:
Mail your Save The Dates. Begin your invitation search. Start to narrow down your favorite styles, paper colors and ink colors.

4 to 6 months before the wedding date:
Order your invitations. 
Start working on your wording for your wedding programs & menu cards.

3 to 5 months before the wedding date:
Send your invitations to your calligrapher or start addressing the envelopes yourself. 
Start assembling your invitations. 
Take a fully assembled set to the post office to determine postage requirements.

2 months before the wedding date:
Mail your invitations. Order wedding programs, menu cards and any other stationery needed for the ceremony and reception.

1 month after I do: Have your thank you card written and sent! Guests may be impressed by the extra touches and the effort that you take to get it out earlier than expected.

2 / Wedding Invitation Word Guide

When it comes to wedding invitations and their accompaniments, what to say and how to say it has left many couples wringing their hands in bewilderment. But the process doesn't need to be stressful or complicated. Remember, each piece in your wedding invitation suite is designed to communicate a specific set of information to your guests.

The Wedding Invitation
The names of the hosts should be listed at the top of the invitation.

The invitation should include:
Names of the bride and groom
Names of the hosts (traditionally, the parents of the bride)
Ceremony date, day of week, time and location

The word "and" in between two names traditionally implies that those people are married. Names of unmarried hosts or guests should be stacked.

The phrase "request the honor of your presence" is typically reserved for a church or place of worship. You are welcome to spell it as either "honor" or "honour". Just make sure you match it on your reply card with "favor" or "favour."

If the wedding ceremony and reception are being hosted in the same location, there is no need for a reception card. At the bottom of the invitation, you can simply state "Reception to follow" or "Dinner and dancing to follow".

For the wedding collection, try not to use abbreviations. Traditionally, middle names, street information and state names are spelled out. If you do choose to list the date or any other information in a more casual manner, be consistent across all pieces of the invitation suite.

Wedding Invitation Wording

Bride’s Parent Host
Mr. and Mrs. Grayson Brown
request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Anastasia Anne
to
Ethan Alexander
Saturday, the twenty-six of September

two thousand and fifteen

at eleven o'clock

in the morning
Grace Methodist Church
New York, New York

Groom’s Parent Host
Mr. and Mrs. Joseph James
request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their son
Ethan Alexander
to
Anastasia Anne
Saturday, the twenty-six of September
two thousand and fifteen
at eleven o'clock

Grace Methodist Church
New York, New York

Both Sets of Parents Host 
Mr. and Mrs. Grayson Brown And
Mr. and Mrs. Joseph James
Request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their children
Anastasia Anne
and
Ethan Alexander
Saturday, the twenty-six of September

two thousand and fifteen

at seven o'clock

Four Season Hotel
New York, New York

Couple Host
Anastasia Anne
and
Ethan Alexander
Invite you with great pleasure 
to celebrate their marriage
Saturday, the twenty-six of September

two thousand and fifteen

at seven o'clock

Four Season Hotel
New York, New York

Couple Host with their families
Together with their families
Anastasia Anne
and
Ethan Alexander
Invite you to share in their joy as they are wed
Saturday, the twenty-six of September

two thousand and fifteen
at seven o'clock

Four Season Hotel
New York, New York

Nuptial Mass
Together with their families
Anastasia Anne
and
Ethan Alexander
Request the honor of your presence
at their marriage in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
and the celebration of the Nuptial Mass
Saturday, the twenty-six of September

two thousand and fifteen
at seven o'clock
Church of Saint Mary of the Angels
New York, New York

Wedding Attire Wording Examples
Traditional

  • Black tie
    
(Tuxedos and formal gowns)
  • Formal, black tie optional
    
(Suit and tie and dresses)
  • Semi-formal
    
(Suit and tie and cocktail dresses)
  • Cocktail Attire
    
(Suits and party dresses)
  • Beach or Garden Party Attire
    
(Summer suits and summer dresses)
  • Casual
    
(Business casual – button down shirts or polos and summer sundress or a skirt or pants with a nice blouse)

Fun & Unique

  • Dress to Impress
  • Fashion Chic
  • Casual Elegance
  • Romance Pink (Colour theme related)

Additional Pieces
When there’s a lot going on for the wedding day, pieces such as enclosure cards provide additional information and details. That way you don’t crowd your wedding invitation with too much information. The invitations should only consist of wedding ceremony details, while as the additional pieces can take care of the rest.

Examples of the additional pieces

  • R.S.V.P Card
  • Ceremony Card
  • Activities Card
  • Reception Card
  • Direction Card
  • Accommodation Card

Save The Date Card
A save the date should be sent to everyone that is also going to be invited to the wedding. It should include the basic information that will help your guests plan for your wedding day by having the name of the bride and groom, date of the event, as well as the city and state. Also include invitation to follow to assure your guests that more details will be coming soon. If you created a wedding website you may want to add that as well.

Escort Card, Place Card
Escort cards tell your guests where they will be seated during the reception. Guests names and the table numbers are written on the escort cards, and usually displayed on a decorative table designated for this purpose.

Place Cards typically just have the guest's full name (e.g. Mr. Taylor Lewis) and may be used if you decide to use a seating chart instead of the escort cards. With the seating chart displayed for your guests to find their seat. Once a guest knows which table they are at, you can have place cards (a folded card with the guest name on them) to designate their appropriate seat at the table.

Thank You Card
There are a number of reasons to send out a thank you card to someone. A thank you card should be sent to:


  • Anyone who gives you an engagement gift, wedding shower gift and wedding gift
  • Anyone who gives you a monetary gift
  • Everyone who attended the wedding

  • Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you

  • The entire wedding party and all who were a part of the wedding planning process

  • Suppliers and vendors (coordinators, event venue, DJs, florists etc)

  • And always Mom and Dad, what would you do without them!

Brides and grooms may choose to purchase personalized stationery to match their wedding suites, or they may choose to purchase thank you cards separately. Thank you notes are typically personalized with the couple's married names or monogram.

3 / Chinese Wedding Invitation Guide

We know this particular segment of the invitation can be mind-boggling especially when Chinese may not be the first language for some of the couples. Whilst couples like to preserve their Asian heritage, they are not sure where to begin. We put together this wedding infographic that explains the anatomy of a Chinese Wedding invitation. This is a great overview guide for couples looking to understand the structure of the Chinese Wedding Invitation. We use a typically family scenario where the reception / banquet is co-hosted by both Bride & Broom’s parents. Please note that scenario is not exhaustive.

Here is the outline of the content.

Traditionally, Chinese wedding invitation wordings are layout vertically and read from right to left. Our One Fold Invitation Card – Lucy and Oriental Love are designed with two languages of in mind.

Content of Chinese Invitation:

1. Gregorian calendar dates
2. Chinese calendar dates
3. Order of birth of the bride and groom
In invitations content, the order of birth is deemed to be in isolated in gender.
For examples -

  • 长男 - Groom is the eldest with a younger brother and sister
  • 小女 - Bride is the middle child with an elder and a younger brother

4. Names of the bride and groom
If the invitation is co-hosted by both parents, the family / surnames of the bride and groom are excluded.
5. Name of the Parents
6. Name of Paternal Grandparents
If the grandparents of the bride and groom are present, then it will be mentioned above the names of the parent, it will be stated 奉严慈命 . If its only the grandfather, it will be stated 奉严命, vis-à-vis, if its only the grandmother, it will be stated 奉慈命.
7. Dinner venue
8. Time of cocktail reception
9. Time of dinner
10. RSVP information, if this is different from English invitation

You can download our Chinese Invitation Word Guide here.